I’ve seen those paintings and I think he must hate women.
      Must hate
us. I imagine you’d say they aren’t about us, our bodies,
      tongues,
or mouths, it’s something else he’s after. It’s sex
that’s scary. That terrifies. Devouring the other, the other
always devouring. And you’d probably say it doesn’t matter
who we are, with whom. Whether the other is man or woman. 

Still, I can’t help but take it personally, the way the woman’s
splayed against the cancas, dismembered. His hatred
keeps him from seeing her as a woman—she’s just matter
for a painting. That’s why she’s all gaping mouth, her tongue
a red slash, a slit, the two breasts staring out at us like other
eyes. It’s in the sculpture, too: that bronze reclining figure,
      her sex

huge, engorged. Phallic. The catalogue says it isn’t sex
at all he had in mind, but a cartoon: it’s images of Woman
in all of Western Art he wants to parody, the icon others
made of her. de Kooning’s not a misogynist, doesn’t hate
women. He meant the paintings as a joke, meant them tongue-
in-cheek. I think the joke’s on us. But what does it matter

what I think? Is it self-hatred I’m projecting? What’s the matter with me? The danger’s both in being seen and not, and sex
does terrify, its mess, its muck, a blur of bodies, tongues,
that obliterates the self, devours. The painting “Woman—
Red Hair, Large Mouth, Large Foot”—it’s everything I hate.