“You ought to see a great many men … You ought to see
as many as possible, so as to get used to them.” “Used
to them?” Isabel repeated with that solemn stare. “Why,
I’m not afraid of them. I’m as used to them as the cook
to the butcher-boys.” “Used to them, I mean, so as to
despise them. That’s what one comes to with most of them.”

How she loved that passage, even though one of “them”
had written it. But James was different: He could see
how women think—and how most men aren’t able to.
She was waiting for her own “Gilbert,” who would use
her differently. It was just pride: Isabel would cook,
take in laundry, before she’d cave, and she knew why—

often, she marveled that Henry James knew why.
She flipped on a movie, a sci-fi flick called THEM
radioactive ants, antennae waving like an Italian cook
on Lucy—and wondered why her Gilbert couldn’t see
her inner Isabel, the one that counted, before he used
her body to relieve himself (and—to be fair—her, too).