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It Can Be Embarrassing to Love Dorothea

August 8, 2013 | by


George Eliot’s Middlemarch has been my favorite novel ever since one summer nearly thirty years ago, when I read it on the recommendation of a Victorian literature–obsessed college friend. I’ve read it twice since then, which might not seem like a lot for a favorite book, but it is nine hundred pages long, and its richness holds me for many years at a time.

I love Middlemarch, published in 1872, for many reasons. I love Eliot’s gently intrusive narrator, her aphoristic habit of mind, her asides on medical research and philanthropy and manners. She can be extremely funny at times, a fact often overlooked by impatient readers. But Eliot’s wonderful narrator appears in her other great books as well—Daniel Deronda and Mill on the Floss and Silas Marner—so why is Middlemarch my best beloved?

Perhaps it has to do with the fact that this particular novel, more even than Eliot’s others, is all about people trying to be good—out of religious belief or a desire to improve the lot of the common man or the love of a woman or in expiation of past badness. The attempt is portrayed as difficult, almost killing at times, and many of the characters fail at it spectacularly. The novel is set against the backdrop of political do-gooding: the great British reforms of the late 1820s and early 1830s, which greatly expanded the number of Englishmen (not women, of course) who could vote. It was a time when the concept of the good itself was beginning to have a more democratic and less aristocratic connotation.

At the center of the many story lines in Middlemarch (marriages, deaths, legacies, falls from grace) is Dorothea Brooke, a nineteen-year-old orphan with a decent inheritance who has dreams of doing some great work in the world. At first she wants to improve the cottages of the tenant farmers who work on her uncle’s estate. Her plans are not met with much enthusiasm; those around her are the sort who think things are fine just the way they are. Courted by a local landowner who is considered a very good catch, she instead decides to marry a much older scholar whom she imagines to be some sort of genius. She will be his helpmeet; she’ll learn Greek and Latin so that she can help him guide his magnum opus into the world. Unfortunately her new husband, Casaubon, turns out to be a dry and humorless pedant who over time crushes Dorothea’s every impulse toward joy and intimacy. She, knowing she is bound to him legally, and feeling bound to him morally, fights against her resentment and loneliness, and although she no longer believes in his talent or his project, gives over her days to providing the lowly secretarial aid he demands.

I am very moved by the sections on Dorothea’s painful marriage, and by her fierce determination to take the high road, to express only kindness and patience toward her husband, who is not an evil man but merely extremely narrow and self-absorbed after decades of solitary living. But many readers today, especially women, are exasperated by Dorothea’s high-mindedness. When a college acquaintance saw me reading the novel that first time, she told me that she’d “always wanted to wring Dorothea’s neck.” She had a British accent, which seemed to give her comment more weight. I was obscurely hurt, as if someone I’d just developed a crush on had been exposed as vaguely ridiculous.

It can be embarrassing to love Dorothea in this day and age. It’s like loving Saint Theresa, the gruesomely self-mortifying sixteenth-century saint to whom Dorothea is compared in the novel’s introduction and conclusion, or Patient Griselda. We don’t find stories of female masochism terribly attractive anymore. But if Dorothea were truly a masochist, she would not have engaged my imagination so strongly over the years. Eliot makes it clear that Dorothea is no saint but rather a morally immature young woman. Her self-denials have roots in in youthful arrogance and impetuousness. Remarking on how much Dorothea loves riding (a love which clearly reveals her physically passionate side), Eliot slyly adds that her heroine “always looked forward to renouncing it.” When Dorothea’s younger sister Celia wants to look over the jewelry their dead mother has left them, Dorothea first behaves as if it would be vulgar to wear any of the pieces, then ostentatiously gives the best one to Celia. Celia urges her to at least accept a necklace with a simple cross, but Dorothea replies that she would never wear a religious symbol as “a trinket.” (Celia rebelliously if silently objects that “I trust the wearing of a necklace will not interfere with my prayers.”)

Of course, Dorothea doesn’t recognize her bossiness and grandiosity. Her ideals of Christian humility and simplicity and service are genuine. But she is very young.

I see so much of my earliest, childhood self in Dorothea. When I was six years old, I regularly drew up lists of all the good and bad things I had done that day. I used to game the list quite a bit, splitting one good act into several sub-acts, to make sure the final results proved my virtue. At ten, I made excursions to pick up trash on the streets near the apartment building my family lived in, “to help the environment.” I was pious, and hoped that God noticed. I cried over the suffering of strangers but bossed my friends and my younger brother mercilessly. I wrote florid letters, letters that almost seem to me now like love letters, to my best friend. I had a temper. Like Dorothea, I possessed high ideals and no great understanding that high ideals and genuine decency are two different things.

But Dorothea learns. And if her behavior in marriage is initially dutiful and injured, eventually it becomes something larger—something generous and large-minded. In a moment of crisis, she comes very near to releasing her built-up outrage toward her husband, but her anger slowly turns to pity for his inadequacies, and the next time she sees him she notices his haggard, defeated face—his health is poor, he has realized his lifetime of work has come to nothing—and is surprised when he speaks to her with gentleness. “When the kind quiet melancholy of that speech fell on Dorothea’s ears,” writes Eliot, “she felt something like the thankfulness that might well up in us if we had narrowly escaped hurting a lamed creature.”

This is a true goodness, not a haughty and showy one, and at twenty, while feeling it involved a kind of self-sacrifice I would never accept for myself (and why should I, in an age of easy divorce?), it nevertheless formed for me my earliest template of great and noble behavior. The models I was given in my earlier school years—Washington, Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr.—meant something to me, but never made as deep an impress as Dorothea did. The mature Dorothea does not deny her passions, but also accepts that they cannot, given the circumstances she herself has chosen, be met. Nothing in my reading experience until then had shown me such a character, a woman with this degree of both fire and self-control.

So Dorothea stayed with me, through my twenties and thirties and into my forties. She reminded me, gently, of the value of holding my tongue when my boiling blood was instructing me not only to speak but to throw some dishes in the bargain. She was an example of equanimity that comes hard-won, one that made good behavior seem not sappy and sentimental but fed by strength and understanding.

At the end of Middlemarch, after Casaubon dies and Dorothea frees herself from some odious provisions in his will, she marries again, this time Will Ladislaw, a vaguely artistic fellow, well educated but not much gainfully employed, who is seen by her family as low-bred. She gives up her inheritance to do so. Here again many readers have been disappointed in Dorothea; they don’t feel her new marriage is any smarter than the first. Will doesn’t seem intelligent enough or ambitious enough for her. (Henry James dismissed him as “insubstantial.”) These readers often wish that Dorothea would renounce marriage and motherhood altogether, perhaps becoming a freelance intellectual and novelist like George Eliot herself. This complaining has been going on for nearly 150 years. Florence Nightingale was annoyed that Dorothea didn’t devote her post-Casaubon life to social work. 

I can’t see the point of this grousing. (Not to mention that even George Eliot did have a husband in all but name, her companion of twenty-four years, George Henry Lewes, and helped to care for his children.) Will loves and respects Dorothea—her spirit, her mind, her body—and it is suggested that she helps him when he eventually goes into politics as a reformer. In the novel’s conclusion, Eliot writes that Dorothea lies in “an unvisited tomb,” but that is not because she accomplished none of the things she wished to as a young woman. It is because, as time passes, even the successful lie in unvisited tombs. For me, Dorothea’s fate is a happy one. She finds outlets for her need to love and be loved, her capacious intellect, and her drive to improve the common lot. Her idealism becomes tempered with realism, her self-discipline is channelled into fruitful and life-affirming aims. Her goodness makes room for her passion. She lives a fully flowered life, even if some would argue that in the twenty-first century she might have chosen to run for the House of Commons herself. What’s important is that she becomes a psychologically complete human being.

Are we readers really so reluctant to give such a figure her due? These days especially we are uncomfortable with idealism in fiction, which we prefer to describe things as they are, not as they might better be. Fiction usually is better at sticking to realities, but then, Eliot was a special case, a genius. I still believe that Dorothea Brooke convincingly represents something of the best that we, women and men, can nurture in ourselves, and this is perhaps why Virginia Woolf famously called Middlemarch “one of the few English novels written for grown-up people.” What other heroine of a great works of literature can compare to her? Lily Briscoe in To the Lighthouse? Too timid, shut out from love and marriage. Elizabeth Bennet? Smart but a cool customer, lacking life’s deeper and darker tones. Isabel Archer? Like Elizabeth Bennet a bit muted in the emotion department, and her story doesn’t end well. Natasha Bezukhov? Perhaps, if allowance is made for the fact that she is not as intelligent or noble-minded as Dorothea. As one can see, there aren’t a lot of happy outcomes for intense, principled women in fiction. I’m so grateful for this one.

Pamela Erens’s second novel, The Virgins, has just been published by Tin House Books. Her first novel, The Understory, was a finalist for both the Los Angeles Times Book Prize for First Fiction and the William Saroyan International Prize for Writing.




  1. Cynthia McGean | August 9, 2013 at 1:29 am

    A wonderful article about a book that I fell in love with after finding it very late in life.

  2. Chris Via | August 9, 2013 at 8:22 am

    My copy of Middlemarch has ben haunting me from my shelves for a few years now, begging me to embark of its 900-page journey.

    I believe this article gave me just the push I needed to clear my reading schedule for a while and savor the richness of this masterpiece.

  3. Jeff Twiller | August 10, 2013 at 12:41 am

    Dorothea got married to a prick, but it wasn’t her fault y’know ? Mr. Casaubon seemed pretty cool at first.

  4. bob | September 6, 2013 at 10:39 am

    Good read. Thanks.

    Also, “always wanted to wring Dorothea’s neck”. See also Anna Karenina and Madame Bovary…

  5. Nell17 | February 12, 2014 at 8:36 pm

    Sorry to have found this five months late, but it’s a wonderful piece. I so agree with your take on Dorothea. I love this novel and have returned to it many times since reading it in college. I think, as I get older, that it seems richer and more wise each time I read it. I am glad Eliot rewarded Dorothea with Ladislaw, who seems to “get” her and to respect her integrity. They are obviously happy.

  6. Carol Apple | January 28, 2015 at 1:49 pm

    I know you wrote this article a while ago but I don’t suppose an excellent post on “Middlemarch” has an expiration date. I have just finished this novel for the first time, and of course as with most classics I finally get around to reading, I am only sorry it took me this long to get to it. I pretty much fell in love with Dorothea and can also relate to her young self in my memories.

    I love how she gives precedence to soul values while still doing her best to fulfill her material duties, as defined by her own standards. I love the way, that in a repressive culture, she resists letting others prescribe her actions and makes her own decisions. I love how George Eliot shows through Dorothea that she understands what real love can be. There will always be people who sneer at people like Dorothea – people who put a higher priority on values of spirit than on the wisdom of the world – but that is sort of the point of the novel.

  7. Jill Collen | April 5, 2015 at 12:17 pm

    I have just decided to re-read Middlemarch, which was ‘spoiled’ for me after I read some piece or other when it was pointed out that Dorothea was utterly without humour. When I first read the novel as a young adult, I too loved Dorothea, admired her efforts to be good and forgave her stupid mistake in marrying Casaubon. But, yes, I thought later, she is humorless, which means without a sense of irony and thus an incomplete person. How could I have been so duped? So, I am rereading in the hope of forgiving her again. I suspect her humorlessness may be another act of will: she may again be trying to make herself into the person she thinks she ought to be. Anyway, even if I don’t find anything to leaven Dorothea, I will at least enjoy Eliot’s portrayal of Rosamund – IMO the best unwrapping of an unsympathetic character ever.

  8. A Reader | April 17, 2015 at 4:25 pm

    I am reading “Middlemarch” now and it is wonderful. I regret that I’ve been avoiding this book for so long. Was it perhaps because of the book’s lenghthy volume or the severe-looking portrait of George Eliot on the cover didn’t strike me as inviting?

    Whatever the reason, I also wanted to wring Dorothea’s neck. Ugh! She is so sententious. My fave character is Lydgate.

  9. Steph | August 16, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    I totally agree with you about Dorothea. If she were alive today, she’d get a crush on Casaubon her freshman year in college, and by sophomore year she’d have pegged him for a humbug and moved on. I adored her and was moved to tears when she tries to repair Rosamund’s marriage when her own heart is broken.

  10. Rabindra Kumar Ghosh | July 10, 2016 at 2:38 am

    I also began reading Middlemarch and other books of George Eliot late in life. But since then I go back to her works like Middlemarch and Adam Bede again and again. Dorothea Brooke may not be relevant in modern Western society. But as an Indian I find in her the same kind of idealism frustrated by rigours of social norms which afflict the women here. As Pamela Erens shows it is not all embarrassing to love Dorothea and to respect her creator.

  11. Robin Inboden | August 17, 2016 at 10:44 pm

    Like reading my own thoughts–so beautifully captured.

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