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Paradise Lost

July 19, 2011 | by

Photograph by Little Sophie.

Four years ago, I embarked on a relationship with a man twenty years my senior, whose Florida home, a few streets over from my condo, boasted wall-to-wall carpeting with a space-galaxy motif, a vintage circus-sideshow banner in the master bedroom, and a six-foot-tall statue of a gecko dressed as a jester, which overlooked the backyard. My family was reluctantly supportive, in that “you’re our daughter and we love you, even if your choices worry us” manner. I had survived, just barely, one brutal heartbreak after another in my midtwenties. It was refreshing to find someone who embraced the eclectic, rallied friends to swing by for dinner, and appeared with surprise snacks when I was scribbling fiction poolside. But mostly, I felt relieved at finding someone who was nice, a champion of my own long-stifled quirkiness.

He had spent eighteen months in federal prison twenty years before, on a fraud felony. Ah, but wasn’t the past just the past? It wasn’t fair to hold a human being to a mistake made so long ago. Didn’t I have my own shameful moments, perhaps not felonies or arrests, but black marks when I had been less than my best self? Don’t we all?

In the spirit of loving kindness, as I watched my fiction burst to life under my new love’s backyard Buddhist prayer flags, I dismissed any signs of cautionary red. A mentor of mine calls fiction writers “literary cannibals.” I was having fun, and my writing responded to the offbeat environment of vinyl Jesus figurines embedded with Magic 8 Balls, wind chimes, and the Grateful Dead. Halfway through a grueling semester in a low-residency M.F.A., I had been questioning my ability to master fiction. Now my adviser proclaimed I had achieved a breakthrough—“a talent for inventing loopy comic situations.”

Things only seemed to get better. My man and I came up with affectionate names for each other—I was Babette and he was Babu. Real monikers fallen away, the relationship carved its own offbeat identity.

A few months after our courtship began, Babu announced that a friend of his who ran a global asset management firm in Costa Rica had offered him a job in marketing. He began dividing his time between Orlando and San José, and long-distance difficulties arose. Sometime around the Thanksgiving dinner, I cooked for his teenage son in Babu’s absence—he insisted I invite both ex-wives, in the spirit of family—and he broached the next step in our future. “Why don’t you quit teaching and live down here with me?” I was an adjunct at the local university; it was a no-brainer. So, ripe for adventure, I joined him in Costa Rica.

Mornings, he went to work at daybreak while I slept until eight in the two-bedroom house we rented in Piedades de Santa Ana, the hills overlooking the Central Valley of San José. Tropical birds chattered in the trees, the palms rustled in the breeze, and for six hours a day I composed my fiction thesis. In the afternoons a mongrel akin to a miniature Doberman showed up on the porch so often that I adopted her. I called her Marqueza in honor of Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

Evenings and weekends we spent at the homes of fellow expats, mostly Americans, Brits, and Canadians who were also employees of Red Sea Management. The talk often involved stocks and trades, a specialized discourse which was lost on my multiple-English-degreed self. My fiction teemed with surfers, magical realism, and colorful expats in dangerous situations.

By late August we had been in Costa Rica eight months, but the honeymoon was over. The “green season” brought dark skies and monsoon rains. With limited Spanish and no car, I was feeling housebound. The dinner parties, expats spewing conspiracy theories about America, and toucans were all getting old; my brain felt like it was turning into the mangoes we bought at the Sunday market. Even the weekend jaunts we took to the tourist sites weren’t stimulating enough. One of the few arguments of our relationship occurred when I had an upcoming trip to Boston to visit my sister, and I didn’t want to book the return. As a compromise, Babu offered to property hunt in New Orleans with my dad. We both had dreamed of one day living there.

I was outside a Legal Sea Foods when I received the call. “I hope you’re sitting down,” my father said. He and Babu had just met up that morning in the French Quarter. My older man had been arrested in the hotel lobby by the FBI, in the company of my father, on charges of conspiracy to commit securities fraud. Babu’s boss, whom I had always sought out for lively conversations at company parties, was arrested the same day at JFK airport with four passports in his possession.

Next to illness or death, few tragedies can compare to your loved one spending his nights in the federal pod of the Orleans Parish Prison (one of the nation’s worst jails, by the way). You feel anger and deception for the life you were living, which now turns out to be a lie, grief for what is forever tarnished. But unlike death or sickness, what makes the loss worse is the lack of empathy from friends and family. My own railed at me for not immediately breaking up with him, but worst was the shame in what is left unspoken—knowing, as you try to come to terms with it yourself, that people are also blaming you. My boyfriend was caught in an international FBI sting, bribing brokers during the day in a tax-evading, stock-scamming firm—with a prior record. Shouldn’t I have known?

My answer to all of the above is no. I had no reason to believe his employment in Costa Rica was a lie. I did not know I had attended his boss’s seder and kids’ soccer matches with international criminals, some of whom are probably still wanted by the FBI. And no, I was in far too much pain to break up with him, although the seed of our relationship’s decline was planted the day of his arrest.

He was out on bail the following week and picked me up at the airport. We had to arrange for our Costa Rican landlady to pack up our belongings in the rental house and ship them to Florida, since he no longer had a passport and I refused to go myself—my expat connections were now criminals lying low. I could not picture the dog, Marqueza, without tears—was anyone feeding her, or was she back on the street? I never got to tell her good-bye.

Months wore on and life struggled toward a strange new normal. I had been relying on Babu for support, but I was flung back to Florida with no job, the fall semester already underway. I set up a small writing-workshop business and focused on my stories, which were stronger than ever; I was sending them out and receiving my first acceptances. Babu was summoned to the southern district of New York to meet with the FBI, the case moving toward trial. And still I had not broken up with him. But our futures were naturally diverging, mine toward a literary career, his a giant question mark. As I planned to attend the Sewanee Writers’ Conference that summer, I thought, I don’t want to be sitting in the courtroom, a mafia wife. Black sunglasses aren’t that glamorous on me.

Nine months passed between the arrest and the breakup, the relationship a wild ride from the beginning. My family and I breathed a sigh of relief. I began my novel set in Latin America that September; I published three of the stories written in Costa Rica recently. Neither the story collection nor the novel would exist without the time spent there. But what is the price we pay for the adventures that may turn into great literature, and at what point does the price become too great? For I must have known, if only subconsciously, that dating someone with a past might very well lead to a dramatic and unfortunate future. But I took the risk anyway. I believe the stories generated were worth it—but I couldn't undertake a similar adventure again. Literary cannibalism is at best a fetish; eventually, life must come before art, and there’s a point where the writer must tell herself, No, I don’t need to jet somewhere, gamble with my bank account, or fraternize with questionable individuals in order to gain great material.

Writing can redeem naïveté. But beyond the page, I won’t be looking back much at the months I spent in the company of strays, scarlet macaws, and white-collar criminals.

Vanessa Blakeslee’s fiction recently appeared in The Southern Review. She has been awarded residencies at Yaddo and the Ragdale Foundation.



  1. Ana | July 19, 2011 at 2:07 pm

    What a great story. Obviously, Vanessa, I sympathize with its outcome — who among us hasn’t had debilitating, seething, seemingly pointless heartbreaks in our twenties?

    At the same time, I think you do a great job of highlighting how hardships can stimulate creative writing. I’ve always noticed that times in my life when I’m excessively happy are the times when I produce very little. One could consider writing an introspective, mournful sort of art; unless there’s something in your every day reality that’s causing you to stop and ponder and reflect, you aren’t likely to produce much brilliant fiction.

    Thanks for sharing!

  2. Stacy Nikkila | July 19, 2011 at 8:39 pm


  3. Vanessa Blakeslee | July 19, 2011 at 8:53 pm

    Thank you! I’m glad readers are finding this a complex, engaging essay – one that was not easy to write, but very much worth exploring.

  4. Glen Wood | July 19, 2011 at 9:01 pm

    When I met you at Sewanee I thought you were intelligent and kind. Nice to see that you’re a loyal and forgiving person as well.

  5. Max Weber | July 19, 2011 at 9:15 pm

    What absolutely gorgeous and flowing prose.

    And what a trick to be so fully and completely human — at once self aware, wistful, chastened, angry, clueless, brilliant, baffled and more — while never engaging in flagellation for tough, good-faith, decisions made to open one’s self to experience.

    These were experiences sought, examined, and it seems — with no small effort — ultimately a source of insight.

    Isn’t that the essence of the human project?

    That she can share it all so elegantly and richly is icing on the cake.

  6. Ondo | July 19, 2011 at 10:12 pm


  7. Philip | July 20, 2011 at 7:11 am

    I like the statement that you won’t be looking back. I think this is exactly the situation for “Don’t look back.” You’ve got this one and you somehow come away with the best case situation. You traveled to the edge, learned plenty, have your stories, and even aren’t hurt too badly. I’m very proud of you and this straightforward take-down and purge of any remaining ghosts from that crazy encounter will make it a clean break and send you on to the next thing. Do be careful, but stay brave, too, Vanessa!

  8. Susan | July 21, 2011 at 12:04 am

    Vanessa –
    Of course, whatever you choose to do or not to do in regards to your personal life is not my concern or even my interest in reading your piece.
    You wove an engaging yarn, but, in the end, I was disappointed with the writer’s unoriginal point of view, however real I expect it may be.
    With elaborate justifications and excuses, your seem to be appealing to your readers for agreement. Your tone suggests, too, that you assume your readers share and empathetically condone your middle-class views and values.
    Your account of slumming with international spies and ganstahs in Costa Rica while working on your MFA thesis and then retreating safely to academia and your parents when the outcome was not what you expected sounds whiney, embarrassed and bland.
    A profound feeling for SOMETHING, someone or anything other than a middleclass, respectable lifestyle seemed to me to be disappointingly missing in your piece, which sounded to me to be whiney, embarrassed and bland.

  9. Kathy Quimby | July 22, 2011 at 10:41 pm

    Wow! Your aunt Sharon is right to be proud of you. What a powerful piece of writing.

  10. cute love quotes gal | August 7, 2011 at 4:23 pm

    I know I had plenty of debilitating, seething, seemingly pointless heartbreaks in my twenties.

  11. shannon | October 2, 2011 at 11:20 am

    I agree with Susan…….

  12. beatrice | October 14, 2011 at 2:10 pm

    As someone who is just barely into their twenty-somethings, I found this really interesting–and a bit of a warning sign. I’m already starting to get into trouble with “literary cannibalism,” comforting myself after making bad decisions by thinking “Well, this could make a good story some day.” Making a note to not do myself and my creativity that disservice.

    Thanks for sharing this story!

  13. shannon | October 17, 2011 at 11:48 am

    The only reason this story is at all interesting…… because of the colorful, exciting, captivating and engaging man you were with.

  14. Kizzie Policar | October 28, 2011 at 2:22 am

    You have a wonderful webpage here! Would you like to be a guest writer for my website?

  15. Seth Rosen | November 19, 2011 at 12:53 am

    Great story. I was looking up white collar criminals and found this page. What’s a nice girl like you doing with such a bum?

  16. Mark Breza | August 15, 2013 at 12:20 pm

    Confessorial Crap ! The word “I” is used how many times ?

  17. Paul Taylor | December 12, 2014 at 8:39 am

    Vanessa, I enjoyed reading your story. My heart was also shattered by the call from New Orleans that day. However I was never under any illusion(s)as to the modus operandi of the fun, swarthy group of ex-pats, therefore my beliefs were not shocked, nor was my life radically altered. For me it was simply the closing of one chapter and the opening of the next. Recently, His Royal Highness-Chief Babu has returned to the land of the living and I’m happy he is back, he’s a little wiser, a little thinner, as loving as ever and truly my brother from another mother.

    Peace x

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