{"id":110310,"date":"2017-04-26T16:18:48","date_gmt":"2017-04-26T20:18:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.theparisreview.org\/blog\/?p=110310"},"modified":"2017-04-26T17:48:31","modified_gmt":"2017-04-26T21:48:31","slug":"losing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theparisreview.org\/blog\/2017\/04\/26\/losing\/","title":{"rendered":"Losing"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.theparisreview.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/turntable.gif\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110318\" src=\"https:\/\/www.theparisreview.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/turntable.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>They questioned some of the scholarship kids first, boys with cheap-cut shirts and shabby jackets\u2014the ones who tied their neckties as if they meant it, not with the shrug of boys who\u2019d been born with a tailor in the next room. This was at a boarding school in Pennsylvania, high on a hill overlooking a factory town where shoes were sold with metal tips, so if you dropped your hammer you wouldn\u2019t break your toes.<\/p>\n<p>Next they questioned the rougher kids, the ones who\u2019d give the gym coach the finger while he was watching, ones who laughed in chapel and smirked during grace.\u00a0<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>There\u2019d been a series of thefts. No one knew if it was while we were all in class or at meals or sports or when the hell it was. Someone had gone into the seniors\u2019 rooms and one by one pilfered cartridges from turntables. They didn\u2019t bother questioning the janitor or the groundkeepers. These were older, foreign men who listened to baseball on the radio or the <em>Make Believe Ballroom<\/em>. They weren\u2019t likely to have stereos or Mitch Ryder records tucked away.<\/p>\n<p>In the end, they found the loot stashed in the closet of the wealthiest boy in school, and it was a deeply embarrassing situation. His father owned half of Cuba and the nicer parts of New Jersey, and his grandfather had donated the swimming pool and the library to the school. It was kept very quiet; he was put on probation and had to put in six weeks\u00a0community service before starting at Dartmouth in the fall.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019d found the cartridges packed up tight in an old shoebox, ready to be shipped to someone who knew the owner of a stereo shop. Once caught, he was not only happy to explain the plan, he was proud of it. After paying for postage and giving his friend a commission, he was going to net more than three hundred and thirty dollars, he laughed, demonstrating a keenness for math that hadn\u2019t previously been noted.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019d all sit and talk about this after lights were out. Three hundred and thirty dollars was real money, but not for him. I\u2019d seen him buy a seventy-five-cent hamburger with a fifty dollar bill. It was the first time I\u2019d ever seen a fifty dollar bill. What was three hundred and thirty bucks when his uncle was in talks to buy the Mets?<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe doesn\u2019t want more,\u201d my friend Morgan said.\u00a0\u201cHe simply wants everyone else to have less.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It made perfect sense. His pockets were already full to bursting. There wasn\u2019t a way he could have more. 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