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To Marry a Writer; Houellebecq’s Latest

February 25, 2011 | by

I’m remarrying at “a certain age.” My mother once said “You’d make some man a lovely wife if you weren’t a writer.” We can chortle at this or, do you think, we can agree that to have a life partner, male or female, hunkering down on a subject, translating perception into the written word, is difficult to live with à la longue? And how can we be authentic but also companionable in an acceptable key? —Jane Merrill

First of all, felicitations and lots of luck. I think living with somebody, à la longue, is pretty tricky no matter what he or she does for a living. So they tell me. The downside of writers, I gather, is that they spend all day alone (which makes them slightly crazy by supper time), suffer from writer’s block (ditto), and by and large are not much help when it comes to paying the rent. But many of you are such good company! And you ask such good questions! If you discover the golden mean of authenticity and companionability, I hope and trust you will let us know. (Maybe in your next book?)

Last year, I first read of Houellebecq in The Paris Review, whose Whatever and The Elementary Particles I loved. Currently, I’m enjoying Le Tellier’s Enough About Love. Can you recommend more contemporary French fiction in English translation? Also, is there a time line for an English translation of Houellebecq’s latest? —Peter S., Saint Paul, MN

I treasure Houellebecq, but I’m having trouble finding a critical opinion, in English or in French, that can really explain and defend the merit of the work. Any suggestions, links? Who are the best French critics nowadays? —Alex

Peter S., the latest issue of The Review of Contemporary Ficton is devoted to the publisher P.O.L.—source of much that is new and original in French letters today. I think it will interest you. One P.O.L. author, Édouard Levé, appears in our spring issue. (You will recognize him as the real-life source for the character Hugues Léger in Enough About Love.)

According to Houellebecq’s American publisher, The Map and the Territory is scheduled to appear in spring 2012. And while we’re on the subject: Alex, check out Ben Jeffrey’s essay in The Point and Sam Lipsyte’s in The Believer.

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  1. Nicole | February 25, 2011 at 12:28 pm

    Contemporary French writers: J’aime Gregoire Bouiller.

  2. Mary Luyt | February 25, 2011 at 12:43 pm

    I would certainly not recommend anybody marrying a writer/poet/philosopher. A friend explained it succintly: ‘You’ll find the best of these people in their written productions; you don’t want to know about the rest!’

  3. Buffy | February 25, 2011 at 1:24 pm

    Some writers cook all the meals, scrub the toilets, and polish floors. Like sinister servants.

  4. M.M. | February 26, 2011 at 3:59 pm

    Isn’t living with someone (anyone for that matter) just a decision like any other?

  5. Shelley | March 1, 2011 at 12:05 pm

    But it’s a universal sentence: “You’d make some man/woman a lovely wife/husband if you weren’t…”

    Just fill in the blank. With anything.

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